Let’s assume you know two things: that you are a woman, and that you like other women.

Follow along, and we will get you from this humble beginning, to being a real-live dater. For example, if you expect to dance alone at a bar, you will be thrilled to find that someone beautiful is dancing with you.

There sure are a lot of biologists on your online dating site.

You’ll be playing this whether you like it or not a lot more often now. You may be seen as forward, or at least not shy enough.

But then she said something that struck a really odd chord: “Yeah, it’s supposed to represent artists from the South, but it turns out it’s just a total sausage fest.” Okay, we all get the basic meaning here.

But is she really implying that the men who were invited to exhibit their work were asked to do so on the basis of their genitalia?

Hone your ability to turn a conversation into a fun tête-à-tête. Assume that at any moment, they might sour, and you will need to disengage. When someone asks how you are doing, never mention the harassment, mis-gendering, or stress you’re going through.

Don’t press anyone, and focus on enjoying yourself. Cool people are definitely not sweating horribly, right now, as they dance around the room, hoping for a match. or a giant snake.” At no point be seen unhinging your jaw to devour a goat.

Remind her that you won’t be meeting any nice boys because you are a lesbian. As a woman I have to say that having a penis never got me special treatment in the academic world.And given that she was aware of my body configuration I have to think that is a strange comment to make to me on a date. Prepare yourself for anyone you date to be called a chaser. Being a lesbian trans woman is probably the best thing in the world. She travels as often as possible, and can often be found on her couch, reading and enjoying a cider.